Friday, July 29, 2011

Getting Over it

When one has a problem in life they either hold on and dwell on it or they get over it.  I’ll be the first to admit that it’s hard to get over something that has really upset me.  I try very hard to work through whatever the problem maybe to fix it.  The solution may not always be what I wanted, but if it fixes it, then I’m up for trying it.

However, there are times when you just have to get over something because no matter how hard you’ve tried there really is no solution.

Life is full of things that don’t turn out the way one expected.  After all there are heart aches and bad attitudes all over the world.  I am sure somebody didn’t wake up one morning and say “I want my heart to be broken today”.  We all want to live a life where we are happy all the time and that we not only prosper {not just monetarily} but also get what we want every single day.  But life is hard.  Life is unfair and unjust.  God doesn’t set us up for failure and sadness but for us to learn from our trials and tribulations.  Learning is hard.  How does one move on and get over something when it keeps bugging a person daily?

I don’t have an answer to that.  I am in a situation now where I am trying just to get over it.  I have worked and worked trying to fix it.  But sometimes not everybody can be on the same page.  Sometimes people don’t see any wrong in their actions no matter how many times or how many different ways they’ve been told.  They feel like the actions that they have done and are doing is right. 

I feel in the end of all things people see the wrong they’ve done.  It may not happen immediately, but in the end the person who was the “bad guy” in a matter will eventually know it.  Usually by then it’s too late.  It’s too late to apologize, it’s too late to make it right, it’s too late to change.  Because the    one{s} they’ve hurt have moved on and gotten over it. 


Kelli said...

I'm in the same place...working on letting go. Life is so short and precious that I feel like we can't take on other people's misery. I feel like the people who try and make us miserable are miserable themselves and we need to stick with the joy that God gives us.

Kristin said...

I can totally relate, and this is something I really need to hear. I recently got out of a relationship that I thought was great, and have since realized that I was lied to over and over again. I was oblivious. I'm not reeling from the hurt and devastation, and this guy thinks he was justified in all of his lies. I just don't get how someone that proclaimed to care so deeply could be so cruel. I'm struggling with this and know that I need to come to a place of healing and letting go. Thanks for the gentle push. :)

Miller Racing Family said...

I am so with you. In my family if something happens or someone wrongs us we were taught not to forget. So getting over it has been hard for me. But through the past year things are changing. I read One month to live and it really put life in the right view. I have learned most of the time those who I have a problem with don't even know it, meaning I am doing all the suffering.
Have a great day!

Nichole @ The Pumpkin Seed said...

I tend to dwell on things for awhile too (even small things). Then all of a sudden I'm just over it.

Hope everything works out for you.

Kay said...

Hang in there! It's hard to get over being hurt again and again. I don't know that you can ever get over it. How can you if it keeps going on? I know how that is...and it's awful. But I'm reading a book now that is about being "broken" and being "blessed". I'll let you know what I learn. Love you.

Kelli @ RTSM said...

I can relate to this too and let me just say that as soon as I let go of the person who never sees the wrong in their own actions my life was so much easier! I know I have faults and I will admit to them...but some people are blind to their own faults and that makes them really hard to be around! I hope you find some closure in your situation soon!